Habits | Self Care | Women’s Health

Stop Beating Yourself Up for Taking Time for Yourself

Sarah Kostusiak
2 min readSep 23, 2021


Self Care is NOT Selfish

I talk to many women in my role as a health coach who tell me that they feel bad for taking time for their own self care.

The word they usually use is guilty.

As if taking time to care for themselves takes time away from their family.

Please stop!

Self care is NOT self indulgent and no one who truly loves you is going to begrudge you the time you need to take care of yourself.

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Let’s reframe this concept of self care today to help you see that self care is actually giving more of yourself to your family — not less.

Media tries to sell us on the idea that self care is shopping trips and pedicures.

I think those things are fine, but they should really be called pampering (which is also good to do once in a while).

Real self care means doing the things that help you to be the best version of yourself day in and day out.

So what things are self care under this definition:

  • meal planning
  • exercise
  • sleep
  • meditation
  • journaling
  • talking with friends, family or a therapist
  • taking your supplements regularly
  • laughing
  • taking a shower or bath
  • reading a book
  • going to work

Basically anything that fills your cup, helps you to be the best version of yourself or helps you to be present with your family is self care.

Time with your family isn’t just about being there physically, but also about being there emotionally and spiritually.

Doing the things that make you a better person is considered self care — and hey, if that’s getting your nails done every week, then go for it!

My name is Sarah Kostusiak and I am a health coach who helps women in midlife go from surviving to thriving by helping them establish healthy habits.

I’d love to invite you to try a free 7 day trial of my Habit Masters Membership where I can help you identify your goals and create the habits that will help you achieve those goals.



Sarah Kostusiak

Coach | Women’s Empowerment Advocate | Beagle Lover — my mission is to guide women to reclaim their power ManifestMindfulness.com