Self Care | Healthy Habits

7 Tips to Help Quiet Negative Self Talk

Sarah Kostusiak
3 min readAug 8, 2021


Tell That Little Voice in Your Head to Shut Up

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We all deal with negative self talk from time to time.

But this angry little voice isn’t to be believed. It’s just a form of self sabotage meant to keep you from becoming the person you are meant to be.

These 7 tips will help you quiet that negative voice in your head.

And quieting that voice is why you’re here, right?

Negative Self Talk Tip #1

The first thing we need to figure out is…is this negative voice negative self talk or self critique.

We need to have a certain amount of self-critique, otherwise we will never believe that we are doing something wrong.

However, you need to recognize when that critiquing becomes negative self-talk. When you can distinguish between these, it will lead to a better situation.

Negative Self Talk Tip #2

Learn from failure.

If you like to beat yourself up whenever you fail, you are in for a steep road ahead. You will fail, and you will do it many times in your life.

Embrace this as a gift rather than a burden.

Try to view failure as more of a lesson learned. Don’t tell yourself you are a failure, tell yourself that you just learned what doesn’t work.

Negative Self Talk Tip #3

Focus on daily affirmations.

You should look for affirmations that fit your current life situation. Use these as often as you can.

Try repeating these affirmations every day.

You should even write them out on a piece of paper and keep them close. The idea here is to program your mind for positive thinking.

The more you keep at it, the more natural it will become.

Ideally, those negative things you tell yourself, will eventually be taken over by your positive affirmations.

Negative Self Talk Tip #4



Sarah Kostusiak

Coach | Women’s Empowerment Advocate | Beagle Lover — my mission is to guide women to reclaim their power